Through Horses Eyes – Surrendering To Change
May 3rd, 2010 | Published in Through Horses Eyes | 3 Comments
As a transitional Life Coach I do a lot of work surrounding resistance and why we fight so hard to stay in a place that often keeps us stifled and unhappy.
Yesterday, I was down in the barn waiting for the blacksmith. Looking at the clock I happened to notice he was late. A little panic set in as I thought, “I hope he is coming.” Over the last year I have been through several blacksmiths due to the extreme size of my English Shires. With Cruiser at 18 hands and Konky almost 17, many blacksmiths are uncomfortable trimming their feet. I have watched as my gentle giants have pulled and leaned and been calmly uncooperative as these big husky men try to use brute strength in making them do what they demanded. By the time they were finished all look tired and frazzled.
A sense of relief came over me as I saw Paul, the newest victim’s truck coming up the drive. When he gets out of the truck I can’t help but notice his slight frame and size. He is cheery and bright as he strides confidently into the barn. As my son in-law brings Crusier out of his stall, and Paul greets him with a big pat. I watch as he tucks himself neatly up under Cruiser’s giant belly and asks for his front foot, which Cruiser immediately obliges. It a little comical to see so amused I watch as each foot is carefully done. At times Cruiser moves which in the past has been a problem as the other blacksmiths struggled for their balance but Paul merely hesitates and flows smoothly with the transition and before you know it, the job is complete. This goes on the same way, as smooth as silk with all the horses. Now finished Paul goes on his way with the same cheerful confident posture in which he arrived.
All of this got me to thinking about how resistance shows up for each of us. It is the outer stumbling block that shows itself when we are fearful, hurt, and indecisive. It is not until we can let go, and surrender that we can stand powerfully within and begin to heal.
In times of loss, we tend to cling to that which we no longer have. This struggle that we create within ourselves keeps us in a state of denial and hurt. The more force we use the more we resistant we become.
Where are you expressing resistance in your life? How is it serving you to try to force how you think it should be instead of allowing it to flow naturally?
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May 4th, 2010 at 8:00 pm (#)
I have resisted being willing to allow success to fully take in my life in fear of something dreadful happening as a result. This is a fear from the past that I am releasing. I am welcoming the truth that I am safe.
May 20th, 2011 at 6:41 pm (#)
As I became a “student” of Reiki as well as “The Secret” and the teachings of Abraham, I am more aware of the times that I am resistant to changes or events that don’t fit into MY plans. As I resist, the universe reminds me that by relaxing into the change/event that it will flow into what is best for me after all (better than my original plan). I am so grateful to have that awareness and understand I need to be kind to myself when I do resist because I am only human.
The lack of resistance (not steering) has allowed me the courage to leave a career paying good money(with no fear or safety net)to pursue my passion in massage therapy. I find it difficult to say that I have a job now! I do what I love and I love what I do and I actually get paid to do it too! I had the “Field of Dreams” mindset about my new endeavor – “If you build it, they will come” and they most certainly have done so. I AM SO BLESSED!
May 22nd, 2011 at 8:59 am (#)
Beautifully said Twila! Lack of resisting is a practice that we become better at daily as we learn to incorporate knowing more of what we do want in to our life and growing our focus on that rather than what we do not want. Many blessings to you and thank you for sharing!! Keep up the gift of your work you are sharing with the world!